I mentioned in the last post that I am trying to find a philosophy or some structure to address a life that I now know will be a challenge not just to me but to my husband and family. I’m sure he meant to be positive, but the doctor who gave me my initial diagnosis told me not to worry, because people lived as long as 20 years with PD. For me, the clock immediately began ticking; I’m now down to 17 years. Now, I know that I could also get hit by a falling drone tomorrow. There are no guarantees. But I want to live in a way that will make me proud to look back.
Now, I had said that I didn’t want a self-improvement project and I don’t. But while reading The Happiness Project, I found something that hit a nerve for me in a positive way. The author, Gretchen Rubin, wrote a blog about her project and invited responses. Some of the comments were included in her book. This comment stopped me cold. I read it again. I felt it might contribute to my outlook, so much so that I took the time to learn how to highlight in my Nook. The quote is as follows:
Before the catastrophe, not after! After was too late. I was waiting to die, but I didn’t die, God isn’t ready for what little there is of me yet. Now I see that it’s like saving money, you can’t save for when you get laid off, after you get laid off; rather, you have to save while you have a job and the money is still coming in. Life is like that, you have to DO while you are able to think of what you want, what you like, what needs it will fill, how it will enhance your life, how it will help you to maintain you, so that you have some reserves when crunch time comes.
– from The Happiness Project
by Gretchen Rubin
I love this! Its the first thing I’ve read which allows for rational steps forward. It allows for me to plan ahead. What will I be happy that I did when I could? I don’t have a huge list but some things come to mind. I want my husband and my children to have no doubts about how much I love them. I haven’t finished yet but I’m looking for occasions to write each (letters last) and affirm my love and my pride. When I can’t scream it out loud and grab them for a big hug, I want them to have proof. It has to be over time; it’s less sincere and less special if everyone gets one at the same time. I will be happy to know they have these. Reading that blogger’s insight also gave me the courage to speak to my husband in a realistic way about looking forward to a time we’ll need a one story plan. I must have done it in a positive way; yesterday, he made a game out of looking at houses that would suit that were nearby. Its not something we need to do now which is good while we pay for college.
So there’s step one or maybe the first brick in the construction. I need to bounce back to the faith issue next time. Thanks for reading.